97 Steps to A Happy Relationship

97 Steps to
A Happy Relationship

Dating and marriage is different today than it was twenty years ago. In today's society,

more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that

makes "commitment" seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges,

people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as

possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married

couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the

outcome can be the same.

The fact is that relationships, whether dating or married, are hard. Things do not always go

perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it

a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is

missing. The "spark" has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and

unfulfilled.

However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy, and long-lasting relationships are

definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny

Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do they possess? The answer

is that they all work hard at their relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love

their mate rather than relying on the "warm and fuzzy" feelings, which everyone knows will

fade. By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you

stick it out.

Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features

that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of months, you

realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats

would have been better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice. However, it

is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is the same for

marriage. Not everything will be perfect and there will be major obstacles to overcome but

you have made your decision and now you choose to make it work.

There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you headed

in the right direction, 97 Steps to a Happy Relationship gives you 97 ways to build,

strengthen, and enhance your relationship.

Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes. So order 97 Steps to a

Happy Relationship today!


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Good Communication in Marriage Starts with Respect

Communication is the mortar that holds a relationship together - if it breaks down, the relationship will crumble. When spouses no longer communicate, a marriage nurtures no one. It is no longer a marriage.

True communication involves respect for the other person as well as active energy on your part. These two skills are essential ingredients to making a relationship work.

Respect Your Partner

We often immediately reject another’s perceptions, especially when our views differ. This rejection may even be unconscious. We find ourselves ready to dispute the things our spouse has to say, to challenge them, or to hear them as threats. Obviously, such an attitude interferes with two-way communication. The first step to improved dialogues is to respect your partner.

Respect allows you to accept another person’s point of view whole-heartedly. Consider and value your spouse’s perspectives or suggestions. Let your partner know that your respect and value for him or her supersedes the specific issue you are discussing.

Put Time and Energy into Communication

Good communication also requires an active effort. Draw yourself and the other person completely into the communication process. If one partner dominates - ie., does all the talking, offers all the ideas, and has most or all of the control or influence - this effort can only be one-sided.

Both of you must be involved in the process.

To work towards this full involvement you should:

• Take full responsibility for the dialogue;
• Put your energy into the exchange;
• Make a commitment to seeing the process through;
• Express your thoughts and feelings fully and encourage your partner to do the same; and
• Resolve misunderstandings by asking questions and seeking clarifications rather than by getting angry.

By putting this energy into communication, you will make a statement to your partner about your commitment and responsibility. It will demonstrate that the relationship is important to you and that you are willing to involve yourself fully in this act of communication.

Intimate communication may not be worth the effort without love. Love is critical to the relationship. Yet alone it is not enough.

If there is love, however, and if the relationship is important to you then you must focus on communication. Only through good, true communication can you realize the joy of love. Good communication makes love possible, certainly makes it better, and ultimately may be love itself.